1) A perfectionist approach to life-
Either you are a perfectionist or maybe you're surrounded by others who are perfectionists that are hounding on you at home or work. If you want to help your anxiety then stop "shoulding" yourself ALL THE TIME. If other people "should" you remember you're always doing the best that you can.
2) Tendency to be in a hurry-
I know this one can be very difficult and I've found this personally true working in jobs where speed is highly praised, such as being a waitress. I ended up feeling like a chicken running around with it's head cut off. The running script in your head that you never have enough time to get everything done plays into the anxiety as well. Learning to be more realistic about your time is important and if you actually timed how long it takes to get everything on your to do list done, then I'd bet you'd give yourself a lot more praise.
3) Approval Addiction/Codependency-
People with this trait are very concerned with what others think of them. If their partner said they like it when they wore a certain hairstyle they would change and always wear that hairstyle just to please them even if it wasn't their favorite. Constantly needing approval puts a lot of pressure on someone to always be liked and accepted instead of focusing on just being themselves. Honestly, to put it bluntly....for some people part of their anxiety healing won't happen until they stop giving so much of a crap what other people are thinking of them and learn to be more autonomous and authentic. Don't be afraid to let your freak flag fly if you want!
4) Analytical Thinking-
This is the part of you awake at 4 in the morning thinking about something you did 10 years ago and then thinking about where you want to be 10 years from now rather than just being here and right now in this moment.
It's the part that takes the box and thinks outside it, inside it, around it, underneath, all while philosophically posing the question, is there even a box? Yes, you can think yourself into a corner. It's understandable if you're highly intelligent and a deep thinker, but remember your brain is just like your personal assistant and one that deserves a vacation now and then.
5) Impatience-
Maybe if they did a study there would be a higher rate here in the USA than other countries because we live on demand and want what we want right now!
6) Rigid Thinking-
Sometimes we have it made up in our minds that our lives will have played themselves out a certain way at certain stages in our lives. If I were to compare myself to many women my age then I "should" have been married with children by now. Life doesn't work that way though. I try to view life as water now, always changing and fluid and we have to ride the waves.
Well, did you recognize yourself in any of these? If so, now what can you do to help to manage those parts of yourself so that they don't get out of control? Stay tuned, because that's what my next blog/video will be about. And remember ~You are not your anxiety~
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